Friends are people that you can trust and who you may have grown to love, care for, and have some undeniable emotional bond/connection with. They aren’t there to be your crutch in life. They aren’t going to be there every second or every minute you need them to be. They are not going to agree with you about all your decisions nor all your opinions. That would be selfish of you to even consider. 

The true meaning of friendship starts with the idea that you aren’t suppose to expect anything out of your friends. You are naturally supposed to value them through the great memories that you may have shared with one another, or maybe a specific moment that brought your friendship together.

A lot of my friends have not been there for me when I needed them the most — especially through personal hardships or battles. I don’t hold a grudge nor some sort of anger against them because at the end of the day, they are human beings as well. They are busy, they have their own separate lives, and their own separate problems. I do not think that many can truly understand that point. People are so quick to point fingers and believe that you are wrong in some way because you weren’t there for them. I’m positive that in most friendships, one person or another was not there when needed. Bottom line, it goes both ways. Don’t feel guilty.

Learn to never depend on anyone. Saying this does not demean the value of friendship at all. It strengthens it because you shouldn’t have to depend on your friends for anything in life, and if you do — you are not a good friend. They will be there for you when they can. Just enjoy whatever time you may have with one another. Laugh. Live. These annoying expectations will only result in your disappointment more than anyone else’s.